True love stabilizes. I took to heart the UPLB Navigators unwritten NO EI (Emotional Involvement) policy among its members. With my failed attempts at “romance,” I did not have a hard time abiding by this rule. I was free to just be myself and enjoy everybody else’s company. Wow, being with friends who loved the Lord was liberating. I had come to realize I did not need any guy (no matter how cute he was) to make my college life colorful.
I also had a 180-degree turnaround with regard to the concept of love. True love as I learned does not operate on a purely emotional level. It does not make you lose your sanity (as I had initially thought and experienced).
The weeping prophet aptly describes the condition of the heart we are born with: “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:19)
Simply trusting in emotions especially if it is in an all-time high (which happened every time Cupid struck when I was younger) is like sailing on storm-raged seas, with one’s vision clouded by the lashing of the tempest. Many a botched decision sprang from a burning heart and not from a steady mind.
In one of my introspective moments, I had an epiphany. Love as it truly is can be learned from no one but its originator – the King of Love himself.
“But God demonstrated his love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 6:
So much with the love the world offers. Earthly, romantic love is oftentimes selfish—on the lookout only for what one can get. Such poisons the soul. Agape love is what I ought to aim for in my relationships. How does the Bible characterize love? The answer is in the epistle to the Corinthians by Apostle Paul.
· —patient and kind
· –not jealous, or boastful, or proud or rude
· –not irritable
· —keeps no record of being wronged
–does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices with the truth
· —never gives up, never loses faith
· —always hopeful
· —and endures through every circumstance
Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever! (1 Cor 13:8)
Three things will last forever — faith, hope and love — and the greatest of these is love.
(1 Cor 13:13)
Real love is not something we feel, but something we are called to do, something we exhibit by deeds. It is a command. The Lord Jesus said to his disciples: “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this, all men will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.” (John
From heaven’s perspective, love is a command and not a mad rush of emotions. Not until I understood what real love is that I was awakened to the deception of worldly love. No wonder people under the spell of earthly love are oftentimes in turmoil. Relationships based on feelings flounder. Instead of the much hoped for “happily ever after,” misery creeps in.
So much for the overly-hyped lightning bolts emanating from a deceitful heart.
What the world truly needs is God’s selfless love.